I have been a long time user and supporter of Ann Davis Transition Society’s services and recently took the Caught in the Middle program with my boyfriend of four years and my two young boys. Having separated from the boys’ biological father well over 10 years ago, I found that things started to get complicated once I moved in with my current partner and things got serious. The boys were having a really hard time with it, due to the fact that they were constantly being caught in the middle.
Having heard of the program in the past, I went in and signed the family up and invited the boys’ biological father to attend as well in the hopes of mending some broken fences. And although their father did not attend, we did as a family, and were extremely happy with the outcome.
For our boys I found it was extremely beneficial for them to be in a non-partisan situation where they could vent their frustrations, have a trained professional help them understand and deal with the situation, and most importantly, hear stories from other children about their problems. This was fantastic, because it was only then that they realized that they were not alone, and that there were lots of kids out there who were dealing with the same situations as them, some better, some worse.
As for myself, I learned some valuable coping skills. And even though I have taken various parenting courses throughout the years and used Ann Davis’ counselling services. I found that I also benefited to have them teach me how to avoid putting the kids in the middle. One of the sections that were especially helpful to me was that children and adults go through the grieving process differently. This, when explained, made so much sense to me and has helped to make me a better parent.
In conclusion, I would recommend the Caught in the Middle program to anyone who is considering separation, going through it, or has already gone through it. By educating ourselves, we are able to help our children, and in the process hopefully help them to grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults. And isn’t that what every parent wants?